Good Morning and Welcome to my Atlantic Life in Hatteras 😊
"Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated...."
Confucius
I have to admit, that over the years, I've been a huge offender of this very statement. At times, it's as if I've strived to make my life as complicated as possible, without even noticing that I was the one driving the complexity - how crazy is that!
It's only recently, and after much soul searching, that I've realized that I was often my own worst enemy, causing much of my angst and stress by decisions and choices I was making, and that the only person that could do anything about that, was me.
How did I miss this????? I'm a coach for goodness sake, and a pretty successful one at that....I know how to help and motivate others, I know the right things to say and do to achieve positive outcomes for the people I work with. But, (and this is an enormous but!!!) as JB has pointed out on more than one occasion - whilst I'm great at coaching other people, I sometimes struggle to successfully coach myself!!! The concepts that seem to come naturally to me in helping other people solve their challenges, can allude me when it comes to some of my own struggles.
It's amazing how many people (including me 😊) that have trained as coaches after being successfully helped in their own lives by a good coach. I personally think having led such an "interesting life", which is often how my life so far is described by others (I suppose that's what happens when you have a restless nature, love adventure and are known to be a tad reckless at times😉), and having dealt with many of my own challenges, along with being a natural empath, make for a more understanding and successful life coach.
Now, back to my revelation....Was it really that simple? Was I the one causing most of my angst and stress by choices and decisions I was making?
The next obvious question was why on earth was I doing this????
Why did I keep repeating the same mistake?
....and suddenly it was there, right in front of me - my need to control my life and everything around me.
Recognizing my slightly control freakish nature (okay, way more that slightly...) was the key that had been oh so elusive. That so many of my decisions and choices were driven by my urge to control the outcome of a situation.
Realizing that I don't always need to control events for them to simply work, and often much more beautifully than I could ever have imagined. In many instances things work out much better when we don't interfere.....and feel the need to control - like my first sip of my morning coffee that JB is simply so much better at making than me 💕
Many more of my life complications have been caused by my need to control the things around me, than from my restless, adventurous risk taking. Strange as it may sound, some of the most successful (and fun😊 ) events of my life have been when I've managed to control my urge to control.... and just gone with my instincts!
So Confucius was right.....often we are the ones making our lives more complicated than it has to be (it certainly was for me).
Until Next Time...
Take care, Stay Safe and....maybe take a little time out of your day to consider - Do you cause some of the overcomplications in your own life?
Love and Hugs,
Pam
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