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Pam's Daily Wave...

Good Morning and Welcome back to my Atlantic Life in Hatteras 😊

It's just as well that there isn't a limit on new beginnings.....

Because like the storybook that is my Atlantic Life, it's time for me to close one chapter and begin a new one. It's not a monumental geographical, or lifestyle change, rather a change in perspective on how I deal with some things. Now, I'm not quite ready to share the details of my latest chapter just yet - maybe when I'm feeling a little braver.

Over the last few months, I've been overwhelmed by the number of people that have messaged and e-mailed me to check in to see that I was okay, and to let me know how much they missed my morning musings and meanderings - to all those wonderful people, I'd like to thank you and apologize if I didn't get back to you💕.

Now, it's that time of year when we close for a couple of months whilst we work on a few projects around the hotel. If you're interested in more details about what we're up to around the Atlantic Inn, you can check out my other blog at:

My beloved Atlantic Inn, Hatteras

So, with no guests at the inn at the moment, JB and I have a little more time to get out and about (yes we can actually both leave the inn at the same time.....and even have dinner out together!!), and, in the last couple of weeks I've had multiple instances where I've been places where I've met, or been introduced to new people, and when they ask where I live and I tell them The Atlantic Inn, big smiles have appeared on their faces, as they realize I'm the woman with the crazy little lady brain that writes the My Atlantic Life certainly got me thinking (and made my heart happy 💗) - reminding me of all the lives we touch, often without knowing it. It's so easy to forget the impact both positively (and sadly sometimes negatively 😥), that we each have on those around us.

Thinking about how many people our lives intersect with in one day may seem like it would be simple enough. But we cross paths with way more people that we realize - Intersections of our lives happen all the time, particularly with the technology that is so widely available to us.

The easy ones to count are the people we are familiar with - family, friends, neighbors and colleagues:

  • Coffee with a close friend

  • Meeting with your boss

  • Calling your Mom on the phone to say "Hi"

  • Watching a movie with a significant other

  • Picking your kid up from school

  • Facetiming an old friend from high school

  • E-mailing a relative to invite them to a reunion

  • Texting about an appointment with your hairdresser

  • Answering e-mail from a cousin

  • Chatting to your neighbor when you're putting your trash out

But, here are just a few of the ones that we often forget about, or simply don't think about:

  • The person in the call center you spoke with when your cable tv wasn't working

  • The administrative assistant at the doctor's office that you spoke with when making an appointment

  • The UPS person that carried your package to your door

  • The comment that you left on a "friend of a friend's" Facebook page because you don't agree with their political viewpoint

  • The cab driver that took you to the airport

  • The person that worked on the check-out at Walmart

  • The server that brought your lunch at the cafe

  • The person that held the door open for you when you were rushing into the store

  • The person you e-mailed to ask for information on a product you had purchased

  • The van driver you returned a text to when he let you know that he was running a little late due to traffic

  • The people that read the blog that you wrote and posted 😉

When our paths cross with another, we have no idea what kind of day/week/month/year or indeed life that person is having....often even with those we think we know really well. Everyone has their own private, personal "stuff" going on, the kind of things that they may not want to share, feel unable to share, or indeed simply doesn't make sense in the situation, to share (like when it's someone you don't know)

Digression alert:

As far as "sharing" with perfect strangers - JB, Kaseen and Lloyd are all very well aware that for whatever reason, people often feel the urge to tell me their life story and any problems they have. A classic example of this happened when we lived in the UK and were having a weekend getaway, when our car broke down. We called the RAC roadside assistance (similar to AAA here in the US), who sent someone to help with the car. After the guy started working on our car, I went to check if we needed to do anything and we got to chatting....after a little while, he began to tell me about his current situation with his girlfriend (he had already told me he was divorced...) and the problems they were having and then began asking my advice on how to deal with the situation as he didn't want to lose her!!!!

Now, all this time, JB and Kaseen were still in the car, but with it being summer, the windows were down and they could hear the entire conversation. Kaseen, my stepdaughter was completely astounded that a perfect stranger had "shared" so much about his life and problems, whilst JB found it amusing that yet again someone had decided to confide in me and ask my advice, as he had seen this happen so many times before.

I think this is one of the reasons I decided to study to be a Life Coach 🥰

Digression over!

Being a tad more thoughtful in our communications is an easy step we can all take. Even if we have bad news to share, perhaps there is a kinder or more gentler way to deliver that news or that reprimand, that just may make the communication that bit less painful for both of you.

So, two important points come to mind:

- We are never truly alone - Our lives intersect with others' lives every day, whether the communication be in person, via text, phone, mail, or virtually

- We have an impact on many, many more lives than we realize

On Friday morning as I sat on my beach during my favorite time of the day, in the stillness just before sunrise, with only the sound of the waves and the occasional pelican to keep me company, I decided it was time for me to begin sharing my Atlantic Life once more 💕

....and here I am 😉

Morning Coffee & Musings...

I will try to post something every day, but as JB warned me when I started my "Daily Wave", Every day is a pretty high bar to set. So it may only be one photo or a quote or maybe even just a "Hello, I'm still here" message, but I will definitely post when I can.

Again, thanks to every one of you that takes the time to read my musings and meanderings, it's like having a really special group of friends 🥰

Here are just a few pics from the last couple of weeks in My Atlantic Life...

My Magical Time, just before sunrise

Hatteras Beauty

Caught this on an afternoon walk with Bodie

Spacex Launch from one of the inn's deck

The Flambeau Wreck

I'd like to leave you with these many people's lives do you think you touch every day - both directly and indirectly or inadvertently? Of those people, how many have you impacted positively....or negatively?

Would you hazard a guess at the % positive versus negative? I'm sure we all hope it's largely positive....but are we being truthful with ourselves?

I think if we are being honest we could all do a little more work on that positive % number.

Well, I know what I'll be trying to work on this week 💗

Until Next Time...

Take care, Stay Safe and....please take a little time to think about my questions - what would your % be?

Love and Hugs,


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Claudia Hurd
Claudia Hurd
Jan 24, 2023

So glad to read your posts and see your pictures once again!


Debi Damas
Debi Damas
Jan 23, 2023

How I have missed your thought provoking posts! Glad you are back


Welcome back Pam! I have missed you! I look forward to your beautiful pictures and thoughtful ways of living and loving life.

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